Dangers of dating separated men
Over time, and especially if they’ve been in disappointing other relationships, they miss each other again and valiantly try to “make it work.” If they don’t see those patterns and correct them, that process will occur until they either wear each other out or find someone they’d rather invest in.
Committed partners who still care deeply for one another, on the other hand, often separate because of external stress, worn-out interactions, infidelities, or a slow drift-apart that neither realized could have ended up in a separation.
If the separated man isn’t sure about reconnecting with his partner and a new relationship would make that option far less likely, he may not want to lose those choices so chooses to keep his options open by separating those two worlds.
The heartache that arises if and when those clandestine relationships are discovered never harbors a good outcome.
They are at a loss when it happens, but still feel attached to their history, friends, children, financial situation, mutual families, and a deeper caring.
After a time apart, they realize that they want to make the relationship work and are highly motivated to make that happen.
Long-term commitments are filled with attachments to meaningful experiences, people, material goods, and history that may go beyond the loss of personal intimacy.
These attachments can bring people back together after a separation in ways that new relationships are less likely to do. If one or both partners in a relationship have drifted too far apart to repair the loss, that separated man may be soured against getting involved long-term again or authentically seeking a new long-term relationship.
What that means in a three-way relationship is that each day is securely connected.
Floppy relationship triangles are essentially unstable and the outcomes are not only unpredictable, but often dire.
There are many factors that can affect these triangulated relationships, and how they are combined can affect the outcome in different ways.
In the midst of a separation, especially if many other people want that relationship to keep going, he may be overwhelmed with indecision and unable to see clearly what is best.
Prior Infidelities Men who have had relationships with other women throughout their committed relationship have either had partners who have regularly left and returned, or have been successful in keeping them clandestine.