My village dating
As a Middle School minister, this is a common conversation I find myself having with students.
A passage at the end of the book has been haunting me as I think about and hear our middle schoolers chatter away about “love” and relationships.
Rather than awakening something they are not yet ready to handle, relating to each other as friends helps them remember something they already know but are prone to forget in adolescence: that we are first and foremost brothers and sisters.
” In preparation for our upcoming sermon series on manhood and womanhood, A Beautiful Design, I’ve spent some time reading through and meditating on the Song of Solomon.
“Yeah, we’ve been going out for three weeks now.” “Oh really? What I really want to say to the young man is, “Let me get this straight: You don’t have a job, can’t drive and just learned how to wake yourself up in the morning…and you’re in a monogamous, exclusive romantic relationship?
It’s as if the Shulamite woman is saying this: “Girls, I can’t tell you how powerful and overwhelming these affections that I now have for Solomon, my husband, are. God created them for this purpose: that my husband and I my share an intimacy and closeness that strengthens our covenantal bond until death parts us.
Don’t arouse love until it pleases.” Middle schoolers aren’t allowed to drive, they can’t vote, and they still have a few years until they’re old enough to watch R-rated movies.
So should we allow them to entangle themselves in the web of romantic love by permitting them to pair off and “date”? I don’t think they have the emotional maturity to properly evaluate or handle the feelings associated with , only to then become so enveloped by it that it consumes nearly every waking moment and thought.
I adjure you, O daughters of Jerusalem, that you not stir up or awaken love until it pleases. I’m sure daughters of Jerusalem asked this, and so will your middle schooler.
Song of Solomon 8:4 Here’s another translation: Oh, let me warn you, sisters in Jerusalem: Don’t excite love, don’t stir it up, until the time is right. ) describing the passion and emotion associated with love, marriage, romance and sex, the Shulamite woman (Solomon’s wife) gathers her younger sisters and gives this stern warning. If we continue reading, we find the answer in verses 6 and 7.